HI all
Are you ready for a little of sexiness Tuesday?
I am starting a new blog segment called Sex-I-ness Tuesday! So what is sexiness? It’s a NOUN that describes the quality of being sexually attractive or alluring.︎ For example, “Sadie oozed sexiness” ·︎ Informal︎ the quality of being exciting or appealing.︎”the book lacks a certain sexiness.”
Being sexy was not something I thought I could be. Growing up, I was shy and insecure about myself. I never was a person that likes to be the center of attention. I didn’t like being the center of attention, I’m more the type of hiding in the shadows. But give this girl a little alcohol and her confidence started to show, that was then.
There are women, that ooze sexiness, in the way the walk and talk and look. When you have confidence about how you are, it shows in the way you see the world, and how people see you. I never thought that I would ever feel sexy, but when you dress for success, you feel it in you the confidence.
Being confident, and taking charge of your life, of your own person is sexy.
There was a time where you would always see me in a skirt and tailor suit when at work. Must say I did feel sexy and showed a little attitude. But it took a lot of self-motivation for me to feel sexy, or showing sexiness. But I got to admit, I was a little shy showing off a bit of skin.
Feeling beautiful and attractive or alluring, was never who I was.
I always felt different from my brothers and my sister. They had so much faith in themselves and whatever they did. There was no stopping them, but I was so different– this shy little girl that people didn’t notice. Soon learn that I was getting seen but never paid attention.
I always wanted people to see me. Why couldn’t I be like my sister, she had a gift, easy way to talk to people, or my friend or be athletic like my brothers? That wasn’t me. I tried so hard to find myself that I, even at one point, I wanted to lose myself and forget I even existed. But I surrounded myself with beautiful people that meant the world to me. Showed me it’s ok to be who you are, also if you don’t fit in.
Then came high-school where the rules were different: you had to fit in be part of a group. I like to joke around and have fun, and with my best friend, you either love us or hated us. Our laughter became our trademark. Even though I was laughing on the outside, I was hurting in the inside. I was still trying to find myself, to be that sexy girl that people saw when they looked at me.
So many girls had that sex-appeal that allowed them to get any guy they wanted, and I so wanted to be that girl but never was. Insecurities were my most profound regret. My best friend once told me, more time then I could count; “Bren, you don’t realize how beautiful you are.” But I was an awkward girl that didn’t know anything about sex, which terrified me, but in time I overcame it. “Don’t we all.”
Sexiness comes in many different ways, but most of all, it’s how you feel inside as a person. It doesn’t matter if you have the sexiest clothes or the perfect body, or perfect hair. Be confident about yourself and know what you want from life. To love who you are, that’s what sexy to me.
Be kind to one another and go out of your way to help someone. Kindness is hot, and a smile is sexy. Sexiness in itself has no value nor a dollar sign, it’s all in how you portray yourself.
We all judge men, women, children, but we do it in silence or behind closed doors. So let me be the first to admit that yes, I do it too. I love men that are in a tailor-made suit and tie. That is why I write about powerful men in my novels. There’s power in confidence a man or woman can be in a suit. My men in my books are tall, dark, and delicious, I find them sexy, and perfect. I’m the first person to drool over handsome man in a suit. Additionally, I love men that have tattoos, there is no judging here, it’s sexy.
Being in a relationship, you need to be confident about yourself. If you find something sexy about your partner, tell him and show him or her. We sometimes forget about our partners. A simple gesture could mean everything or make someone day. We forget to tell them how sexy they look or how beautiful he or she might be. A straightforward word being sexy, or looking sexy. Feeling beautiful about herself and saying it are two different sayings. One compliments the other, well to me anyway.
I hope you enjoyed my rant of the word sexiness. I’m trying something new, changing it up. Don’t hesitate to reach out and ask a question and start a conversation.
My name is Brenda Pearson I write romance novels/novella. My books are about sexy billionaire’s who find that perfect woman. A woman mind you that doesn’t put up with their arrogance. My heroin/heroine are strong characters that don’t follow the rules unless it’s theirs.
Cheers
Love
Brenda
P.S. Share your sexy story if chosen, I meant just write it in my blog.